Can Your Significant Other Police What You Wear?

Well… this is a tricky one! I know very minimal about fashion, trends and all of that. I’m a simple guy with simple tastes, laid back and not too fussy about a lot of things fashion. I believe people should wear clothes that are appropriate to the occasion. I know clothes express who we are and the type of person we are so no one should have a say in what we wear. Right? Well…

There are cases where change is unnecessary. You are in a relationship and now you are at the stage where you can share your thoughts on the other person’s appearance and so forth. Some people understand fashion and know what can work and what cannot work. Then you find other people that are passing judgement. Those that pass judgement need to take a seat. Judgement is not appreciated in many cases. So when sharing your views on your partner’s appearance, there is no need to judge. No one made you the fashion police.

There are cases when a partner upgrades the person they are with. People go from jeans and t-shirts to chinos and shirts. Others go from showing an excessive amount of skin to showing the right amount for the occasion. We all need an upgrade. You may think you are perfect but you will find there is something missing and you can’t explain it. An outside perspective must be considered. In this case, your partner does not police your outfit but they make suggestions. This is someone that understands. Hopefully they are not doing it so that they have great Instagram photos. If that’s the case, you are in trouble.

Clothes is a sensitive thing. You change someone’s clothes and you change who they are. I watched Crazy, Stupid, Love recently and Steve Carrell’s character needed a new wardrobe because Ryan Gosling’s character advised him to. Also in 40 Year Old Virgin, Steve Carrell’s character was made to change his clothes to attract a woman and… Oh! I see it now. That’s a powerful message there, Steve.

No one should police the clothes you wear. Should you be feeling a particular way, wear the clothes you want to, freely. People can make suggestions and no one should run around with “spikes” to police your wardrobe. At the same time, if you are going to an event, there is nothing wrong with asking your partner what they think about the outfit you have chosen. When asked, respond honestly. The last thing you want to do is go to the event and hide your partner because you are embarrassed.


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